I read an article yesterday about an 18 year old girl who moved out of her parents’ home into a friend’s home because she didn’t like the rules her parents set, and this girl is now suing her parents to get them to finish paying her private high school tuition, pay her college tuition, and something else monetary. The lawsuit is being paid for by the friend’s father, who is asking for all of the fees he is paying to be paid back to him by the parents. The rules she didn’t like were to be respectful, abide by the set curfew, and to maybe rethink the relationship with the boyfriend. Those evil, nasty parents!
I’d like to think there is more to the story then this girl leaving because of three pretty standard rules. Oldest One, who is still 17, has a curfew we expect her to keep, and we also expect her to be respectful with everyone. No boyfriend, so we don’t have that issue, and I can’t say what I would do if she brought home someone who seemed to be bad for her. But, going by just the few facts presented in the article, what I get is a spoiled, self-centered child who thinks she is an adult being guided by a so-called adult who is an idiot.
Husband and I have been in situations where the parenting is questionable, so we do what we can to help the child and have our home be a safe place. It would never enter my mind to sue the parent for anything. If a situation were so unsafe the child needed another place to live we’d be there. If the parent was just having a hard time, and needed help we’d be there. It’s easy to place blame on how other parents raise their kids, and us parents are the first to point fingers and whisper, but to go down the road of convincing a child to sue their parents seems way out of line.
An update to the article showed the judge ruled the parents did not have to pay the private school tuition or the fees of the parent paying for this, and put on hold the question of paying for college because he wants to see the family back together. The parents reportedly have been in tears when talking about the situation. I know I would be.
We all have our ideas of what a good parent is, and I’d like to think most want to be a good parent and take care of their kids. I’d also like to think that for most of us helping a child out doesn’t include assisting them to sue their parents. I feel bad for these parents, and I can’t imagine how awful they feel trying to get through all of this. One day this girl will probably have her own kids, and as they approach the age of 18 I wonder what her feelings will be on what she put her parents through.