Still Sick Little One

Husband had to take Little One to the doctor yesterday.  She got her nasty, awful cough Saturday night, and it was getting worse.  She has a sinus infection, so she was out of school yesterday, and I convinced her to stay home today.

She really felt awful.  Last night, as I was relaxing in the recliner, she tried to climb in and sit with me.  She is 15, and almost my height…and I’m 5” 6 1/2”.  I suggested we sit on the couch together, and after moving Fluffy White Dog twice (he was not impressed with me), I was able to hold her while she cuddled next to me feeling miserable.  Yep, I loved feeling needed!

Husband thought it was funny, so he took a couple of Snap Chat videos of it, but Little One didn’t think he was funny, so she hid under the blanket.  After she went to bed she texted me (teenagers!) and asked me to come upstairs…she wanted me to lay on her bed until she fell asleep.  Much as I would have loved to do that, neither of the dogs were open to me laying on the bed next to her, and I was really tired, and needed to be able to get up for work.  So I laid down, with a dog on my head, for a while, so she could get comfortable.

As Husband put it, if I could have, I would have spent 3 hours laying in her bed, or cuddling her on the couch.  I don’t get many requests to hold my girls anymore, and it’s usually when they are sick that they ask.  It can be tricky figuring out how to best be the Mom of a high school and a college student, but it is never hard to figure out how to love, support, and hug them when needed.


Sick Little One

My Little One is sick.  A cold, making her stuffy, sore throat probably from her nose draining, and she feels worn out.  This is a peppy teenager, very energetic, so when she just wants to lay on the couch with a blanket you know she feels lousy.

Of course she wouldn’t stay home from school yesterday, and today she has basketball games to cheer.  I’m giving her Dayquil, which is about all I can do from work with her at school.  She also doesn’t want to miss math class.  I give her points for not wanting to miss class or cheering the games.

After she went to bed last night she texted me (I was downstairs) and asked me to come up to her room, which I did.  She wanted to be hugged, and she wanted me to lay on the bed next to her for a few minutes.  This is a rarity, so I gladly hugged and kept her company.  I was actually a bit sad when she told me goodnight and gave me a kiss on the check, to let me know I could leave the room.

Both of the girls loved to cuddle when they were little, but of course grew out of it as they got older.  I’m only called Mommy now when they are sick, need help, or need money.  I understand, and actually I’d probably feel weird if they called me Mommy at a school event because that isn’t who they are.

So, even though I dislike Little One is sick, I admit it is nice to be needed, and for her to want hugs, and to want Mommy to take care of her.  By the end of the week she’ll be fine, and bouncing off the walls, and ready to go conquer the world.  And for me to drive her around to conquer the world!

More Puke & No Sleep

Definitely a 3 Dew day today.  Oldest One started throwing up around 2a this morning…I think it was 2a but since I didn’t sleep much after that who knows.  Yes, she is 17, but she is still a kid and wanted comfort.  There was nothing I could do except stand in the bathroom watching her puke, then get her back in bed, cover her up and lay next to her rubbing her back.  Which was what she wanted.

At one point I thought I was laying my head on one of the two hundred pillows on her bed, but it was actually the White Fluffy Dog.  He wasn’t very impressed.  And Oldest One kept laying in odd ways across her bed, so I couldn’t get under the covers.  I was wearing long sleeve, long pant pajamas, but I didn’t have socks on, so I was really cold all night.  Fat Grey Cat started licking my foot when it was hanging off the bed, which didn’t impress me.

Husband didn’t sleep either, because I’d get her settled, go back upstairs to bed, and then my phone would go off (and my text notification is Chewbacca snarling/roaring) and I’d jump which would wake him up.  He was wonderful and packed my breakfast, lunch and 3 Mt Dew’s and took Little One to school.  He is so a keeper!

So many of the school cheerleaders are out sick there aren’t enough to go cheer at the basketball playoff games.  This is one nasty bug going around.  I’m hopeful it leaves my house soon and doesn’t come back.

Sleeping in Mommy Mode

Since I was a teenager, and maybe before, I’ve been a pretty sound sleeper.  In college I could have entire phone conversations and make plans while I was sleeping.  Unfortunately I never rememberd the conversations or the plans, but my friends got used to this quirk pretty fast, and figured out when not to call me.

Then I had children.  My days of sound sleeping were gone.  I became a light sleeper and was awake at the slightest sound coming from a child.  Luckily I could be woken up and get right back to sleep.  I say this is lucky because both girls woke up several times a night and would wake me up until they were five or six.  They would go to sleep fine, but especially with Little One had to wake me up to take them to the bathroom.  They would wake me up by walking in and getting me out of my bed.  Husband couldn’t and still can’t be woken up and then get back to sleep.  Little One actually walked in her sleep, so I preferred getting up if I heard her get up just to make sure she got back into bed safely.

Then the girls got older, they didn’t need me in the middle of the night unless they were sick, and I suddenly went back to being a pretty sound sleeper.  Sound enough that if the girls want to wake me up I usually start dreaming I am being hit because they have gone from light taps on my arm to heavier thumps just to get me to wake up.  I have slept through Husband getting sick in our bathroom, which I sleep closer to than he does.  I have slept through the dogs barking in the middle of the night.  Oldest One said I’ve texted her after she is home (when her curfew is later than I’m staying up) to see if she is home…after she has texted me she is home.

But then there are the times like last night that I turn back into a light sleeper.  Little One is sick, and has a bad cough.  She finally stopped coughing and fell asleep around 11p, but I was waiting for the cough to start back up.  I slept, but not well.  At 4a I went in her room to check on her (which I rarely do at their ages) just because she had been so quiet.  I’m pretty tired today, and she feels pretty lousy today and we kept her home from school.  I may sleep through Oldest One coming home (and our front door sticks, so it isn’t like she is stealth coming in) but if one of the girls is sick, I’m back in Mommy Mode for sleep.

I don’t think it would matter if the girls were in their 30’s visiting with husbands and kids; if they were sick and I heard coughing or any other sounds of being sick I wiould immediately go into Mommmy Mode and not sleep.  Even though I would know they didn’t need me during the night, I would still be ready.  As it is when Oldest One is sick I sleep with my cell phone on full sound, not vibrate, because she is on a different floor and I don’t want to miss her text if she needs me.  I do have it on full sound when she is out and I go to bed, but I’ve slept through at least one text letting me know she is home.  No, I don’t sleep through the “I need you because I’m sick” texts.  I think that is because I know Husband is listening for her to come home when she is out, but when she is sick he knows she is in the house so he can fall asleep, and I know I need to be ready to jump up and help her feel better.

The girls are getting older, but it doesn’t mean they don’t need Mommy when they are sick.  They certainly want me around more when they are sick and feel lousy.  It is good to know I can drop back into Mommy Mode sleep whenever I need, and sleep through tap dancing dogs (I swear that is what they do on the landing) the rest of the time.