At Oldest One’s University there is an Alternate Breaks program, where during spring break student’s go to different cities and work with the homeless and underserved populations. I had told Oldest One about this program last year, and she recently applied to take part in it. She was accepted into the program across the country, which costs a bit more than those in states closer to us.
We were still fine with it, since the program gets grants and solicits donations to make the fee the students have to pay very low. It is a fraction of what we paid for her Costa Rica trip. And, since there are a couple thousand kids that apply, and she got chosen, we are also very proud of her for getting a spot.
She set up a GoFundMe page to try and get donations to help pay for the trip. She posted it to Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. I only have Facebook, and I shared it asking anyone who wanted to support her to please donate. Most people either ignored it or commented they thought it was great she was doing this. Except for one person.
A family member’s fiancé, who tends to be negative (one day I’ll tell you all the story about meeting her…Oy Vey!) commented “Why leave the state to help the homeless? Couldn’t you help locally??” Oldest One does help locally, and through University groups does volunteer projects to help the underserved populations. I was just amazed that someone could look at her trip, and make it seem like a bad thing to be doing.
Oldest One could have asked us for money to go to Florida for spring break, where I’m guessing things go on I don’t want to know about. But instead she asked to go as part of a college program and spend her break helping those having a rough time of it. Yeah, she is a rotten kid.
Oldest One answered the comment before I did, in, as one of my friends said, a very mature and articulate way. She very nicely pointed out that she will be able to do more, having an entire week, and that she will be able to interact with them in a very different way than when she only gets a few hours. And she also pointed out how many students weren’t able to be a part of this. My comment was how proud we were she wanted to help people on her spring break instead of partying. Not surprisingly, the negative commenter didn’t say anything else.
With all the stories we hear of kids the age of Oldest One doing idiot things, and being narcissistic, you’d think Oldest One would get this person’s support for getting into this program and for wanting to do this. It shows a different side of this age group, and one I’ve seen in a lot of kids, that they care, want to make a difference, and are worried about the plight of others.
I didn’t delete the comment, or de-friend this person, even though several people told me I should. That she is negative and possibly narrow-minded is her loss. I also don’t know how to de-friend someone, and I’m too lazy to figure it out. I support my daughter, and many other people do also. I’m proud of her, and excited for her that she has this opportunity. One Negative Nellie isn’t going to change that. Oldest One, and Little One too, are going to help make the world a better place.